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Filmmaking Essentials: My Hollywood Backstory of Emmy, Value of True Friendships In Entertainment


Let me ask you, “Do you feel you have good
people in your life? Do you have honest friendships and relationships? Are those relationships at all one-sided?” I want you to answer these questions honestly. It’s something to think about? The truth is, developing honest friendships
within the Hollywood trenches is all too often not real. Sometimes those we have known for many years
turn out to only be “good-time friends” once your success fluctuates. Key words here, “your success.” Remember that! I’m going to share with you my personal
story that takes place around Emmy®. Or better said, her “Hollywood” backstory,
and the value of true friendships in this business. And for young aspiring content creators and
filmmakers joining the ranks of The New Hollywood Generation, this directly applies to you. That’s coming up. Welcome to ‘Hollywood, Unapologetic!’ My name is Orlando Delbert. I wanted to speak a little bit about Filmmaking
Essentials: My “Hollywood” Backstory of Emmy®, and the value of True Friendships
in the entertainment business and how it applies to The New Hollywood Generation. I should mention before we get into it, I
first wrote about some of what we’re about to touch upon, success in filmmaking, in life,
and how it applies as part of The New Hollywood Generation when I was writing, Pollyanna’s
Tear Soaked Battlefields of Hollywood: A Survival Guide Against the Cynicism and the Hypocritical. We want to know your questions, comments,
and idea suggestions you may have. Please write them below. Leave a “thumbs up” if you like what you
see. Make sure to click on the subscribe button. Click that bell so that you don’t miss anything. Be sure to check out the videos in the playlist,
“New to Film Production? Start Here!” Be sure to watch all of the way through. We’re going to speak about a lot of things
as part of being best prepared. Remember, preparation is the key to you and
your project’s success. Today’s episode is going to be mostly off
script. It’s going to get personal. And the reason for going off script, in part,
has to do with a special little lady coming home the day after Christmas, thanks to another
very special lady and her wonderful family. Now, here’s the reason I’m off script,
well for most of this episode. This lovely lady was with a friend for several
years, and there’s a bit of a story behind it. I wanted to tell you a little bit about Emmy®. This is Emmy®. Some of you already know I became ill several
years ago. Shortly afterwards, I was cut out of the entertainment
industry. Within twelve hours afterwards to be exact. I was blacklisted. I was “disappeared” as I have been told,
largely to not have ever existed at all. I find that to be quite ironic, being I’ve
worked on hundreds of motion picture and television productions, thousands of episodes that have
aired on television, not too mention the hundreds of studio recordings as a musician and the
live performances on stage and on camera. “Hmmm… never existed, huh?” Without getting too much into those specifics,
the end result has left me disabled. It took me several years to basically regroup,
since within those twelve hours my career was basically over. I didn’t get a single job for years. People I have known for many years prior to
this called me to wish me dead. Some showed up at my home and threatened me
with bodily harm, physical violence, simply because I no longer can “serve them”,
be of “service to them”. I wasn’t able to work anymore. It was a very strange experience, but not
at all unique to the entertainment industry. In that process as I’m attempting to regroup
my health was fading. For me it was really tough as I was downsizing
and putting things away, and I’m a couple of years into this at this point, I got back
my first Emmy®, which is this one, my first national Emmy® anyway, because my mom passed
away. Actually, I got it back from her shortly before
she passed away. Right before, yeah. This was the one I actually gave her, my very
first one that I gave her. For those who don’t know, my mom, Nancy
Delbert was a pioneering woman of television. She produced, directed, and starred in a children’s
show in Cuba called, “Tía Tata’s Quentas Quentos.” My understanding it still runs today I believe
more than fifty years later. — Fifty or sixty years on the air, something
like that? Wow, I just did a Google search and found
an article stating, Celia Torriente wrote an episode with a puppet musical group in
1970 on the program. It also stated the show began airing weekly
on television in 1963, with no mention at all of my mom. I shouldn’t be too surprised, since my mom
told Fidel Castro directly to his face, “no” when he asked her to teach communism to the
children. My mom and my dad were very influential in
my life to being in this industry we’re in. My dad, Edy Sanchez was best known for being
a photojournalist and photographer, but was key in building sets and puppets for my mom’s
theater troupe in New York in the 70s. My dad passed away when I was young. Not too long after that, my brother sister
and I raised ourselves, my being the youngest one. My memories of both of them, aren’t that
many unfortunately, even less now since the stroke. But I still have an influence from them. So, let’s fast forward several years, I
get to Los Angeles, after working on quite a few entertainment productions and related
projects and business ventures in New York and Miami. Several dozen. After two and a half years of being in Los
Angeles, I get this “Golden Girl”. When I finally got her in the mail, I ended
up having this little plaque at the bottom put on at an awards shop near the 20th Century
Fox studio lot I was working at, at the time. Can you see that? And it says, “Thank you mom for making me
who I am, I love you.” I don’t know if you can see. So that’s that. I was fortunate enough to be part of an award
winning team while I was at Fox. That year, our team had two nominations and
won one out of the two. Out of the four years I was with them, we
had four nominations over three consecutive years and won three. So, I was fortunate enough to be with a really
good team. So, the first one was after being in L.A.
for two and a half years. So, when I received this one, I sent it to
my mom in Miami where she was living. And to my surprise, countless people when
they found out I gave it to my mother would ask me, “Why would you do that? Why would you give it to your mother?” Even today, that’s an odd question to me. “Why would I do that?” Why would I not do that? That’s just really strange to me. It’s my mom. She gave me life. As well as, even though she was at a distance
for most of my life, she was still an influence to me. Her body of work that spans decades internationally. So, as my life was falling apart, and I’m
figuring out what I’m going to do with myself… oh actually before I get into that, a good
friend of mine, René Besson, he’s an award winning motion picture director, and best
know for being a production executive at one of the film studios, knocking out lots of
films over the last several years. He flew in from L.A., and my sister flew in
from New York to Miami for a documentary I was producing, on her, my mom. It was supposed to be about her life, her
successes and such, and the film became bigger and bigger and bigger. So, what was really cool was an actress named
Mel Gorham flew in from New York together with my sister, Laura Delbert, and René as
I’ve just mentioned to interview my mom. “I love you Mel. I love you René. I love you sis”. Mel upon arriving to New York was if I’m
not mistaken on three back-to-back Broadway productions, “Oh! Calcutta”, “Hair”, and “Smile,”
to name a few. She also was in “Carlito’s Way”, “Cop
Land”, “Smoke”, and several other feature films. Come to think of it, my sister also had her
time in and around Broadway and Off-Broadway too. Go sis! Unfortunately for me, I had to stay in L.A.
to finance this thing. I was working on “The Dr. Phil Show” at
the time. I wasn’t able to go. But I have photos that my sister took of René
interviewing my mom, giving this to her on camera. But as her health declined, I ended up getting
the Emmy® back right before she passed away. But because of the situation I mentioned before
of my own health failing, not getting opportunities for work, I pretty much lost everything. I had to start over. And that’s the thing about being blacklisted
in Hollywood. Just about every door gets slammed shut in
your face and won’t be available ever again. So, for those who want to continue in this
industry, they have to start over. Well, a good friend of mine, Lara, Lara Ramirez. Thank you, Lara. She’s also in our industry. She’s a special visual effects picture cutter. She works on A-List effects heavy features. I ended up giving Emmy® to her since there
was so much uncertainty in my life. If I ended up losing every material possession
I owned, the one thing I wanted to keep safe was Emmy®. Fast forward, nine of ten years… It might be ten years, I’m not sure, I got
Emmy® in the mail the day after Christmas, and she was here. She was home. It was really touching for me. It was really hard. But it was a good thing. My point is in all of this, in this industry
it is difficult to find good people, genuine people, who are going to be loyal, who are
going to be true to you and what you’re about, and things that you work on. And Lara in particular, she was and has stood
by me all these years, held onto Emmy®. She was never bad or weird about anything,
about keeping her safe. So, I am really grateful, grateful for her
and her friendship. I love you Lara. The point of all of this is, when you find
some good people, some good people to work with, hold onto them. Because in this industry, you just never know
who is your true friend. You never know who has an anterior motive. Real loyalties are very difficult to come
by. So, if you’re able to get together really
strong, solid, cohesive core group of people to be around, hold onto them. That’s why you’ll see directors creating
projects with the same people over and over again, they are the reasons why, a big part
of the reason why, because it’s just very, very difficult. You may be asking yourself, “Why would he
be sharing something so personal with us? What does any of this have to do with me?” The reason is simple. As young content creators and filmmakers starting
his or her journey as part of The New Hollywood Generation, we have to be mindful of the relationships
we have before we began, as well as to keep an open eye to those we meet. We’ll get more into that in a moment. Do you like my story of Emmy®? Does my speaking about how my experience being
blacklisted makes sense? Does my speaking about why finding loyalties
need to be held onto make sense? Does my speaking about your role as part of
The New Hollywood Generation make sense? If it does, write hash tag New Hollywood Generation
in the comments below. That’s #NewHollywoodGeneration. One thing I noticed building professional
relationships in the entertainment business is that they can either start off as a friendship,
or evolve into a friendship. This of course is just what should develop
organically. Many times however, there will be talk of
a breakthrough “idea” for a film or television program. You’ll also notice that when interacting
with even those you just meet, they too will also have their own projects in the works. The common element between the two is that
they emphasize the potential to make good money, later. Many times it’s just a big jerk off. One of the warning signs to look for is that
they have several “great” projects in the works. Everything is in the future. They talk and talk and pull information from
you a little at a time. This can go on for several months and even
much longer. Then they simply vanish into thin air, or
they move on with their projects without you. It was just a ruse to see what information
they can get, including a list of contacts from you, and sometimes even your money. This is followed by when you call them, and
they are suddenly stricken with amnesia. That’s just part of the game here. It’s a round about way of conducting business
that also bleeds into their personal lives. I bring this up simply as something to be
mindful of in your travels here or anywhere in the entertainment industry. You will see this kind of behavior quite often
as your professional and personal relationships grow. You’ll have to learn how to decipher who
is honest, who is forthcoming, who is wearing their game face, and who is just simply full
of shit. This is especially true as your status grows
and the potential for someone else to make money off of your efforts grows as well. There is not a lot of loyalty in the entertainment
industry. People and companies are just looking to make
money and don’t care if they have to stand on your face, your talents, or your wallet
to do so. People will shake your hand, smile, and lie
to your face as money and opportunity are stripped away from you. This is an experience you will encounter over
and over again. You have to pick your friends and your battles
wisely. Unfortunately, many of your relationships
will be based on two perceptions: whom you know and what you can do for the person standing
right in front of you. And once you are working at the film studios,
television networks, some of the production offices and post-production facilities, you
can see this firsthand how people are. Of course, this isn’t everyone. I don’t wish to infer that. Please don’t get me wrong. It certainly isn’t the case. But in places like Los Angeles, it is just
seen so much, it’s hard to miss. These lines of thoughts stem from the things
people will do under the stress of desperation, and signs of this are everywhere you look. You can see it in people’s faces as you
walk by them on the street or in the hallways of any studio. It’s like a sickness. It’s a problem throughout the industry. It makes me wonder what’s worse, the façade
that the media machines have created for us all to be rich, thin, beautiful, and famous,
or the levels of desperate acts many will go to in order to achieve being rich, thin,
beautiful, and famous. I am in no way trying to discourage anyone
from following his or her dreams. Following your dreams is something I wish
more of us would do. I applaud you for doing that. I want you to know, without a doubt, that
you are meant to do what you want to do. The bigger point that I’m getting at in
this episode, is about building family. This is something I speak and write about
with regularity. Unless you came to Hollywood with your brothers
and sisters and a trunk full of cash, you’re going to need to build a solid support base. When things are going well you will have plenty
of friends. It’s hard to know who will be there for
you when things are not going so well. All too often, you just don’t know. Whom you can count on is a hell of a lot more
obvious when you are not working, or sick, and your support group vanishes. And for just about everyone in this business,
when you’re not working, it can be for many months if not years at a time. Believe it! You will need to create relationships with
people that care about you and not about your wallet or whom you know. Be mindful of actions more than words. Those actions will often showcase one’s
character and motivations, but assessing actions can be a tricky thing too. Sometimes, we all get fooled. Please be mindful of whom you bring into your
life, professional and professional life. Hold onto those great relationships that are
filled with love and respect. And remember, true friendships are hard to
come by. But the ones that truly matter will love and
care for you, over time and distance, and some may even take care of a “Golden Girl”
of your own. Quick note: Thank you to my sis, Laura Delbert,
René Besson and Janet Valdivia, Mel Gorham, Lara Ramirez, Laly Zambrana, Omar Kelly, Tony
Haynes, Nadine el-Khoury and Mark Volpe, Rebecca Borba, Julianna and Gloria Temesvari, DJ Brodii,
Whitney Moore and Jake Satterthwaite, Wendell and Wesley Hubbard, David Gordon, Adam Treece
and Anne Hamilton, and little Rocky Pachino for their help with Emmy®’s journey all
of these years, keeping her safe, and to our friendships all of these years. I’m sorry if I missed anyone. I love you. One more thing, as part of The New Hollywood
Generation, others just like you are asking the same questions of themselves. You are not alone. We’re all in it together. If you enjoyed the content, please SUBSCRIBE
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and consider what your role is as a new generation of content creators. And feel free to take advantage of other members
in The New Hollywood Generation community. We are all here to grow together and to help
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meet some fellow filmmakers and content creators. As members of The New Hollywood Generation,
take the time to assess what your short-term and long-term goals are. Make your plan. Take a breath. Go for it! You can do it once you believe you can. Are you ready for the challenge? If you’re looking for filmmaking for beginners,
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skills needed well beyond just how to succeed Hollywood, and beyond whatever discussion
other how to film school, how to indie filmmaking, in general how to film industry channels don’t
talk about. The “why’s” you truly need to know,
to help you grow as a thought leader in life, the entertainment industry, and how it applies
as part of the New Hollywood Generation is in this video series and in the Pollyanna’s
Tear Soaked Battlefields of Hollywood: A Survival Guide Against the Cynicism and the Hypocritical,
series of books. Links below. Remember, preparation is the key to you and
your project’s success. Ready?

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  1. HOLLYWOOD UNAPOLOGETIC! - Filmmaking Essentials Author

    Please leave YOUR THOUGHTS, QUESTIONS, and COMMENTS below about filmmaking and The #NewHollywoodGeneration. Please give us a "THUMBS UP!" Don't forget to SUBSCRIBE and CLICK ON THE BELL to get our updates! And don't forget to WATCH the episodes in the playlist, NEW TO FILM PRODUCTION, START HERE!: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLTR9QOSdF89fqi5FGm9LJzgk2Od_3Awmc See you soon! Thanks!

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  2. petelars1 Author

    Thank you OD for your genuine and honest narrative about the hushed "back alley" backstabbing in the entertainment industry! Its insane how this trust issue continues to destroy careers in our industry. I call it, "the plague of disloyalty". You put in dedicated years of labor, blood, sweat, and tears for a company you believe will support you in return. Awards are nice and I appreciate them. But after a while they try to drive you out without credence. No help from lawyers at the union(s) either, who take part of our salaries too. Your brave and valuable insight into the biz will definitely help those entering the industry with bright eyes, and perhaps a little naiveté, to become more aware and hopefully protect themselves. Speaking as an artist, it is tough to be tossed into the pile of "we don't need you anymore, thanks, bye." Its truly hard to find good people, good friends in any industry, especially in ours. You are one of the very few GOOD souls OD. Thank you! Love to you my friend!

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